Should I take this to court if I get suspended from school? Or am I wrong? Please answer?

Question

So at the end of last year My old friend started dating this man. This man is the type that only wants sex; and will only stay with a girl who will give that to him. In the beginning of last year he tried to talk to me I didn't even like him like that no more after he kissed my best friend. He also started to flirt with a lot of other girls. As a good friend I tired to go and tell her that he is not some one who you should be with. He only wants sex from you. He's a player you shouldn't be with him. I told her that like twenty times. She would not listen at all.

Anyways , school started back about a month ago. For the past few weeks this person and her boyfriend has been making out on the bus. (extreme making out , not just kissing) they were talking dirty and everything. When we got off the bus and class started. I polity asked my old friend to please stop doing that on the bus because it makes me feel uncomfortable. She said "OK" but then the next day they literally started having sex on the bus right behind my seat. They moved from where they originally sat to behind my seat and started having sex. From that point on , I felt disrespected because I had asked her nicely to please stop. But, they didn't. Me being an old friend, I didn't want to be a ***** and just go straight to higher authority with it. So I asked her my self. She didn't respect that. So all this week I haven't talked her; but when I did want to say something about her I would say it to her face just like she asked me too. Today , she went to the principle office and reported bullying. But honestly, how is it that I was bullying her by telling her how I felt about her after what she did? When she is the one who made TWO THREATS to me. She made threats to me and they were serious threats. She threaten that she would get her boyfriend to beat me up and that she would punch me in my face. Just from simply telling her how I felt about her. But yet, I'm the one in trouble for bullying.

Honestly , I'm going to tell everything to my AP that I have heard about this girl and what she has told me from when we were friends. Things that I know she didn't tell him because it would get her in trouble. She betrayed me by lying on me and now we can never be friends again.

I just want to know if I do end up getting suspended , if I should take this court or not? Please give me any legit advice I would greatly appreciate it. I honestly don't feel like I'm wrong for explaining to her the reasons why I don't like her anymore. She lied on me and now it's a whole different story. I don't know what to do anymore

PS: I know this is long but please read all of it and no rude comments; A lso if it helps we are both females who are 18 years old. I think the boy may be a year younger or a year older I'm not sure.

Answer 1

Youre only in trouble here because your friend acted first and told someone. Now you have the right to counter complainabout whats going on. Anything your friend said about her past is all hearsay since you cant prove any of it so let all that go. Just stay to what you can prove and tell someone soon before they do beat you up. Tell them about the threats and everything that has recently happened as Im sure the school doesnt allow sex on campus or the buses. Also you really dont have a case to take to court here unless they assault you and you press charges but for the rest the courts wont do a thing, sorry. You dont owe her an explanation as she truned on you and BTW some people as you will learn, have to learn things the hard way which is why she wouldnt listen to you about him. This is why Love is Blind sometimes and little you can do about it. Save your own butt now and let her be as you dont need enemys with firends like her. Good luck

Answer 2

Well I'm not a lawyer but I have lived through something very similar in a church but unfortunately the preacher was in on it as well. But the bible states this, and this should apply in any situation not just Israelites so go to your AP and ask for this meeting with all involved and if he refuses you will just have to bite your tongue because the cards are stacked against you and I'm sorry fore that would be totally unjust.





Deuteronomy 19:16-21

If a hostile witness stands to accuse someone of a wrong, then both parties involved in the quarrel must stand in the Presence of GOD before the priests and judges who are in office at that time. The judges must conduct a careful investigation; if the witness turns out to be a false witness and has lied against his fellow Israelite, give him the same medicine he intended for the other party. Clean the polluting evil from your company. People will hear of what you’ve done and be impressed; that will put a stop to this kind of evil among you. Don’t feel sorry for the person: It’s life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.

Answer 3

I noticed that right around the third paragraph, all of this goes from what you supposedly saw to what you heard. I wasn't really buying it before that, but now I'm just gonna have to call BS on this whole rant.



You seem to have a deeply developed interest in your friend's sex life for someone who just has her best interests in mind. Even through your side of the story, this reeks of jealousy and catty behavior. Just look at the way you're bending over backwards to put this all on her. You go to the trouble of reinforcing how calm and polite you were and how rude and hateful she was every other sentence.



Take a lesson from this. Putting your nose in other people's business does not work out well for you. You interjected your unwanted opinion "like twenty times," and it ended up biting you in the a**. Let people live their own lives and leave things alone.



If you have a problem, bring it up politely--ONCE. If it continues to be a problem, take the proper steps to get it resolved. Badgering someone about behavior that you don't approve of isn't helping anyone, especially you. I guess you'll find that out for yourself.



Anyway, you're not going to "take this to court" and you know it. Don't be ridiculous. The alleged sex going on in the bus is hearsay, although I'm sure there are plenty of witnesses to you antagonizing her about her relationship. Handle your problems better in the future, or stop hanging around people that live lifestyles that make you uncomfortable. This isn't rocket science.

Answer 4

I'm not sure if you can take it to court, but I would at least try if you got suspended.



But before anything (like getting suspended), I would highly recommend telling your school everything you just told us.

Answer 5

I'd have to hear the other side's story. Can't pass judgment from what one person says.