Question:
I have strong feelings for my professor?
T r i p p y
2008-11-18 17:10:12 UTC
My professor at college is probably about 25-28 years old. He is so cute. My class is 2 hours long, but I never want it to end. He is in charge of student advising, and when my sister was enrolling in the college for herself, he spoke to my mother. He told her I am an "excellent" student. When she met him (with my sister), he mentioned again that I am a "pleasure" to have in class, and that he can always count on me to have the assigned reading complete. He is not a pig, either! I was on my way to cheerleading practice, dressed in short shorts. I had to run to my own advisor, to have her sign a paper, and I passed him. He gave me a "hello," but only looked at my face. He writes on the dry erase board, and I stare at his arms, legs, buttocks..ETC. I am only 17 years old (I graduated early and skipped a few grades). I am currently a junior in college, but this isn't the point. He is so smart! He has degrees in philosophy, religion, and education. He has mentioned in class of an "ex-fiance." His poor soul probably longs for affection - the kind that I can offer and give! I checked out his office, while he was advising my classes, and he only had a picture of a dog on his desk. He has no wedding ring on his finger, so I imagine he's single. I am a psychology major, and will soon be a doctor of my own, much like him! I can't keep my eyes or mind off of him. In April, when I am of legal age, I want to confess my attraction for him! I can't handle not having a class with him next semester, but I am not going to pay for classes I don't need. I am currently an on-campus student, and he spends much time here at school, doing smart things such as designing notes and tests for his various classes. I seem to be the only one attracted to him, since my friends say I'm crazy. All they care about is partying and cheerleading! I just see him as a smart, attractive, MATURE man that I am currently seeking in my life, since I am indeed, a smart, attractive, MATURE, young woman. I've been told that I look about 21, and have achieved so much, so early in life. I really think me and my professor would be great together. I envision us traveling to India, Saudi Arabia, and Italy. I could love him and his dog. My family would be not-so supportive, but I don't care!


People, people, people...this is a serious condition. My heart cannot take anymore. How do I proclaim my feelings for him? Would buying him a box of chocolates be too much as very early Christmas present?
Five answers:
anonymous
2008-11-18 17:37:24 UTC
I understand the way you may feel for him is extremely strong, but as others may say i really do think it would be a bad idea to confess any kind of attraction to him.



He is your professor, and is there to do his job, and his job only.



I don't want to come off strong, but you hear many cases like this and it rarely works out.



Despite it being highly unethical to start any kind of intimate relationship between you both, it is largely frowned upon.



Not that im saying you should be concerned of what others think, but it may seriously effect his career.



Im guessing the last thing you want is for him to be hurt, and colleagues of his may well frown upon this and judge him(im sure you know how i mean considering the age difference) as life can be cruel, you most certainly will find this out sooner or later im afraid to say.



But you are young and will find other men throughout your life, and his purpose wasn't to find love, he's there to help. It also sounds to me as he doesn't give you many signs of attraction so i think that's how he would want it-no trouble.



Just think when you graduate, he will still be there doing his job while you have gone from college, he would still have to live with any consequences.



On the other hand,i think buying him a box of chocolates is a very good idea. But only for the sole purpose of showing gratitude for all the work he has put in, in helping you. It will definitely show your appreciative of him.



I hope things work out :)
Χαλαρά
2008-11-18 17:16:10 UTC
Fraternization between professors and students is highly unethical and usually never ends with the student being happy. You're 17, it's quite possibly illegal as well.
gator
2008-11-18 17:22:18 UTC
your wasting your time, your still a teen and if you carry out any of these fantasies, will probably be expelled and if he's that stupid to get involved, he's looking to be fired, maybe have his teaching license suspended or revoked and even make the sex offenders list, concentrate on your studies and getting a degree, not fantasies
Rach T
2008-11-18 17:31:07 UTC
You want him to take you seriously wait another year til your a senior and 18 and then approach. Otherwise its illegel and immature.
anonymous
2008-11-18 17:27:54 UTC
i highly doubt he likes u back


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