Ive been accused of harassment?

Question

my girlfriend split up with me 3 weeks ago for reasons that im not sure, she said she wanted different things. After several attempts to make contact with her she has sent me a text message telling me to stop harassing her and she will write down the reasons for our break up and post this to me. I have made no further contact with her after this with the exception of one text saying "I will wait for your letter, if possible sent it via special delivery so this can end as quickly as possible".

What I would like to know is have I broken any laws?

Here is a list of the types of communication me I have made:

Several phone calls (all ignored/blocked by my ex girlfriend)

Several text messages - The content of these where basically telling her I love her, please call me, lets work things out. Not one malicious word was sent.

A few emails - same content as texts

Phoning home - did this twice, both times answered by her parents. asked to speak to her but she wasnt in and they said they would pass on the message that I was trying to make contact. Nothing abusive at all was said just a quick conversation each time.

Phoned her at work - actually spoke to her for a few minutes. asked her if she was ok and if she would talk to me. she said she would call in a couple of days. when she called back we had a chat but no answers were given and she suggested that we meet up for a coffee sometime to talk. both of these conversations were quite pleasant and nothing abusive or offensive was said by either of us.

tried to arrange to meet up with her but again calls, emails, texts (all none abusive) were ignored.

Now we get on to the harassment accusation....

yesterday i met her outside work. I handed her a list with my days off for the next few weeks, asked her how she was, and offered a hug which she gave me. then i got into my car and left immediately.
later that day I sent her a message on a car site forum. the message content was basically begging her to give us another chance and telling her how much I love her. nothing abusive was put in the message.

now this morning she sent the message to stop harrassing her and she will post me a letter.

I know ignorance is not an excuse in the law, but I just want to know where I stand legally. I swear I have not sent one abusive, aggressive, threatening or malicious message. they were all soppy grovelling messages.

I am not going to make any contact with her now in anyway shape or form (post, phone, in-person, internet ect.) and accept that this relationship is now over completely.

Answer 1

Harassment doesnt have to be abusive, its any unwanted behaviour. All she wants is for you to leave her alone, no messages of any type, no turning up at her house or work place. Just move on, if she sends the letter read it then move on.

Answer 2

Maybe when she told you to stop harassing her she did not mean it literally just that she's asking you to give her some space. It appears you take things to extreme - a whole lot of communication or nothing at all. What you should aim to try and do is find a happy medium.



I think you started it now, by not contacting her at all and that is wise for the moment, but if ever she does contact you respond accordingly.



Try taking things a lot slower.



Instead of bombarding her, try a three times rule.



Ask once and leave a while for them to respond like a week, if no response, ask another time, this time leave a three day gap. If still no reply, ask one more time and leave a two day gap where if there is still no response, leave everything alone and tell yourself it's goodbye and it's up to them now.



Because by now you'd have given them more then 12 days to give you what you want to know; if they hadn't, there's your answer.



HTH!

Answer 3

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You might have begged, pleaded, promised to change your ways, and even gone so far as to break up a new relationship he might be having. It’s important to remember at all times how you appear to him. It’s going to be hard to get him back if you look childish or scheming.



Try to think of any behaviors like that you’ve displayed since you broke up, and stop them now. Whatever you’ve been doing obviously isn’t working or you’d be back together already. If you’ve been following him around and showing up everywhere he appears out with friends or on a date, your behavior probably seems more like that of a stalker than someone who loves him. When you have an ex to get back, things you’re doing to convince him to be with you might be the things that are keeping him away.



Next time you end up in the same place together, whether it’s a restaurant or a club, when you walk in and see him, do acknowledge him. But instead of going up to him and demanding his attention as you might have done before, simply say hello and go about your business in another part of the room, or explain that since he’s there, you’ll leave to make him more comfortable. Be nice and polite and simply go. If nothing else, the change in your behavior will get him thinking.



When you have an ex to get back, doing what isn’t expected is important if you’ve been trying unsuccessfully for a while. If you’ve been calling him 10 times a day, or even 3, stop. Call when you really need something, not just to rehash why he should take you back. If you don’t have reason to call, then simply don’t call. After a week or so, give him a call just to say hello and that you were thinking about him. Ask if he’s doing all right, and a few simple questions like that.



If he starts to sound suspicious wanting to know why you really called and acting as if all this niceness is just a prelude to your usual behavior, just assure him you called because you missed him and wanted to check in on him. Then say goodbye and end the call on a good note. When you have an ex to get back, you want him to wonder at the end of such a conversation. He’ll wonder why you didn’t beg or plead as usual, and what’s going on.



If you’re less comfortable with calling for such a thing, mail him a card that simply says you’re thinking about him. It’s important to give him the chance to make a move. When you have an ex to get back, you can’t smother him with attention and affection but instead let him come after you.

Answer 4

If you put everything together emails, telephone calls to home and work, in-person at work, it's a little too much, don't you think?



It doesn't sound like she actually went to the police department and filed a harassment complaint against you. She's just asking you to quit contacting her.



It really is time to move on. If she sends a letter, don't even read it, it's not worth your time. Good luck.

Answer 5

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.



The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.



Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 6

Unwanted TeX messaging either to your girlfriend or any body else that do not want communication with you in this country is considered harassment. So my advise to you is if your girlfriend said No... to communication, you must drop it or you can be persecuted...! Good luck man...!

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Answer 8

Man leave it alone dude. She is seeing you in a different light, if you carry on



Find a escort and have stranger sex her.



Get it out of your system.



P.s So much booty out there man !!!

Answer 9

man up move on theres plenty more fish in the sea. dont let one **** ruin ur life

Answer 10

Took you long enough to figure out it was over didn't it?

Answer 11

Very strange. From what you've told me you weren't harassing her. Maybe she being stupid. :P

Answer 12

what're you like 12 or something?