I'm a Single Dad. How do I go about giving my baby up for Adoption?

Question

Ok so I'm a young single Dad and here's the story, I have a 7 month old baby and my Girlfriend just decided she didn't want to be a mother and walked out. I had her to go through with the pregnancy and said I would be there for her always and that we could have a family together. So she had the baby, but then afterwards she got extremely depressed and never developed that bond. She is very young, attractive, a big party girl, and she has this dream of becoming an Actress. So she just walked out one night and left a note saying that she was going to Los Angeles to pursue her dream and that she wasn't ready to be a mother and deal with the "burden". For the past several months I've been alone with our baby with have no help or support, its really hard for me without my Girlfriend and I can't do it without a mother in the picture. I've been living at my mom's house and she barely helps at all and I have to work and go to school. I'm so overwhelmed. I feel like the best thing for my baby would be to give him up. My aunt (my mother's sister) said she would be interested in adopting him. How do I get started?

Answer 1

You need to talk to a lawyer for issues of this magnitude...not a bunch of strangers on Y!A. You're going to have to work through a lawyer sooner or later, so you may as well get started now.

Answer 2

Talk to a family lawyer. It would be great to keep your child in the family by giving custody to your aunt, if you feel she is right. Good for you for being an adult. But also keep in mind, one day you won't be in school and your life will change and then you may regret giving up your child. Can you change your routine or stick it out a little bit? It is a lot to think about. Good luck!

Answer 3

I disagree with the responder who said you are cruel. You are just responding to the situation you have.



Since you are going to school, you may be able to enlist some aid through the school. If not with child support, then at least they may be able to help you find someone who can guide you through this.

Answer 4

If your aunt wants the baby give her custody.

And go to this website...

familial adoptions are more streamlined than other adoptions.





At least the little guy will still be in the family and you can watch him grow.

Answer 5

Find a family lawyer, they can guide you through the adoption process. It sucks, but I give you credit to try and do what you think is best for the kid.

Answer 6

wow you are cruel. you go and make a child and then don't live up to your responsibility as a man, you are pathetic. just because your gf walks the heck out, doesn't mean you should too!