I really need help. Emotional/ domestic abuse! I wrote a lot but if one person helps i would be grateful =[?

Question

I dont know what to do and I need real honest help.

I have two sisters, one is a half sister (3 yrs old) and one is my younger sister (teen). Ive lived the past 9 years with my mom and stepdad. My dad is in miami and has heart disease.

For the past 9 years I have lived through lots of arguing and domestic abuse, though a lot of it was started by my mother believe it or not. My mom is crazy, of that I and my sister are convinced. I have seen her choke herself with a belt, argue with herself and at one point she emptied an entire bottle of pills into her mouth, FILLED. She has said she wanted to kill herself many times. When she gets angry at my baby sis she calls her an idiot and a dog. Once my baby sis wouldnt pee and she put her on the ground and yelled at her to pee on the ground.

She once went on a rampage on how horrible a son I am and I ended up jumping out of a moving car to escape her, I limped towards the fire station to talk to authorities but I stopped and turned back. I regret it. Now my mom and stepdad are divorced and she channels ALL her previous anger on me.

Before you tell me im having dumb teenage angst, I want you to know that I am a very smart kid. Im not being egotistical, but I have over a 4.0 GPA in an advanced program and so does my sis. We work hard in school. In my program I need to attend afterschool meetings and my mom wont take me. Since I am a junior, if I miss anymore meetings not only do I fail the program, but I fail highschool for not meeting general ed. requirements. I have over a 4.0 and am at risk of not getting a diploma!!

What should I do!!? Should I call police? Tell a counselor? I want to graduate from my program but my mom is prohibiting me basically.
I dont want to live with my sick dad (i love him but i just dont want to). The only other place is my grandparents and they live within walking distance =/ Even though my mom acts insane (and I havent told you a millionth of the issues including hitting my sister, calling us worthless, and stalking my stepdad) i dont want her to go to jail or anything. I just want a calm life....... :(

Answer 1

I would say the grandparents would be the best way to go. Do you have any aunts/uncles/good friends you could stay with? Anyone other than your parents, if it really is that bad over there, you need a way to escape. You never know, maybe after a few weeks away things might change. I'm sure that there are other people in your life who care about you and would be willing to take you in. Don't stress.... your parents are their own people. They will make mistakes and they will let you down but don't lose confidence. Focus on your schoolwork and on things you enjoy. Go out with your friends. Distract yourself. It may sound stupid but that's what works for me when I have family stress going on. Be in places where you will be encouraged. If you are a religious person, attending church is a huge help. Good luck, hope everything turns out okay.



Yes, you should tell someone about this. Don't keep it to yourself, especially if there is violence involved.

Answer 2

I just wanted to say that your Mum is probably sad and angry and depressed and needs help. That she is taking it out on you and your little sister is a tragedy. Speak to your school counsellor, there are many people available to help you and your Mum too. Speaking up won't get her sent to jail but will get you the help, support and attention that you need. You are very smart and caring young man and that is excellent. Your school will not fail you if they know your home situation, they will care but only if they know! I wish you and your sister all the very best for your future. Take care.

Answer 3

You need to go directly to your counselor at school tomorrow and fill them in on ALL the details and ask them for help, no matter what that help may be. If for some reason, they do NOT contact the authorities, then you need to, you need to call the Child Services (known by other names in other states) and let them know.



Your Mom needs help, and so do you kids.

Answer 4

You should e-mail me. This is serious. You can find my e-mail via my profile.